Each year, at the beginning of my son’s basketball season, the coach gives a speech to all the parents. He says, “I promise if I have to discipline your child, I will always be fair. But that doesn’t mean that I will treat each child the same.” Now, at first glance, this may seem odd; however, if you examine your interpersonal relationships, you’ll find what works for one, may not work for another. Perhaps a one-size-fits-all approach isn’t the best philosophy to use in all of our interpersonal interactions with co-workers, managers, clients, family members, or friends.
Reflect on some of your past relationships….think about a time you had difficulty relating to a new co-worker or manager. How did you work through that? The key is: If we can understand how a person inherently thinks, feels, and behaves as a unique individual, then we can be in a better position to relate to them. That’s why I’m such a strong proponent of Gallup StrengthsFinder.
Do you know your top 5 strengths? By using StrengthsFinder to identify your top 5 of 34 “themes/strengths” (such as Futuristic, Relater, Analytical, to name a few) and sharing these strengths with others, you can work with them – or simply relate to them – in a whole new way.